I do not celebrate Black History Month

Who is your favourite black person?

I was asked this today. 

Seeing as it's "Black History Month", people think about iconic "Black" people who have influenced the world. Obviously there is also this whole "Black Lives" bandwagon/movement currently going on too. 

I know that the world is already insane but it really is just going backwards. The world does need educating and there are some incredible people that can do that but it does not matter whether you are black or white or whatever colour! Black people aren't even black and white people aren't even white. 

The colours don't even match the description! A Raven is black. A Dove is white.

My problem with celebrating these events such as "Black History Month" and "Pride" and whatever else people want to talk about is the fact that every single time something is mentioned like this, you are ALREADY creating seperation. I wrote this six years ago:-

https://muksblogaboutstuff.blogspot.com/2014/01/equality-and-diversity-is-not-equality.html

Anyone can have a good or bad heart regardless of what they look like or what they believe in or who they follow. 

Talking about it, jumping on bandwagons about it, trying to make a big deal out of things about the differences in people is the very thing that is wrong. So now there are posters celebrating this event and people will look at these posters and think about "Black" people. Thus creating a sense of judging because of the colour of their skin. Its almost unbelievable that this is happening. I understand that there are so many horrible people in the world who of course do discriminate. there are some very ignorant people. But do celebrating these kind of events really change their views?

Personally I don't think so. I am a British Indian. I get called all sort of names, I have even been called a "Paki" and ironically I have been severely bullied by Pakistanis

Things like this are happening everyday to different extremes. Just recently I was told that "all white people are dirty, it's in their nature". This is offensive to me and I'm not even "white". 

People are people. Good and bad. Judging people should be based on this.

Is it wrong to want to do something nice for the anniversary of a death?

Or even a the birth date of the person who isn't here anymore.

I always think that to keep someone alive after they have passed away, the only thing that can actually be done is recall memories and just talk about them. 

So my dad would have been 70 years old and one month if he was still alive and I wanted to do something nice for the birthday that never was but I spent the majority of that day cleaning my girlfriend's kitchen. Which is quite bleak I guess but I suppose that people don't care about this kind of stuff. 

Maybe I shouldn't either? 

How's it going Papa?

So it has been seven years now since my Dad passed away. I can't believe it. It has flown by. I hate the 17th of May and I always used to try and do something positive and meaningful on this day. Not today though.

So many things have happened since, but yet it still feels like yesterday. In and out of a long term relationship. A few holidays. Slightly improved on the guitar too. I can also now ride a bike.

I am currently paying rent-which I know he would have absolutely hated. Such is life. It is quite a normal thing to pay rent, but I know he would have wanted me to be in a much better place now. Yet I do keep dsappointing still. I don't know why.

It is weird how such a normal thing like going to the pub with my Dad and girlfriend would have been the most natural, simple and yet incredible thing in the world. And that is something that never happened nor will ever happen and yet people are doing this kind of stuff all the time. I never got to experience this.

I do wish that there was some kind of Afterlife or something just where things like this could happen. It's doubtful but who knows?

I'll see you soon. If there is. I will get the first round because I never did.

How to look after her.

I know that this is hindsight.

But here goes:-

Be honest. Be open. Don't try and hide your feelings. Tell her that you think she is the most beautiful creature that has ever existed-because she is. Tell her that she is amazing. Tell her why you think she is amazing. Tell her every amazing thing about her to her. Buy her things, even if you don't like those things but she does. Buy her flowers even if you think that they are a waste of money-if she likes them, then they are not a waste of money.

Always encourage her. Don't put her down-EVER. Support her. Help her. If you need help, tell her. She may want to better herself to help you-don't have a go at her. If she does something for you, thank her. Comfort her when she is feeling low. Give her advice. Listen to her advice. Hold her when she is sad. Talk to her. Tell her that everything will be OK. Do whatever is possible to make everything OK. If you upset her, then apologise. Don't leave it like it doesn't matter. Apologise and make sure that she is OK. Talk about things. Anything. Everything. Just talk. If she cries, be there to wipe away her tears.

Be happy when she is happy. 

Cook for her. If she wants to help, let her help. If she doesn't then that is OK. Let her cook for you. Appreciate it. You might not like the taste, but appreciate it anyway-she cooked for you! Use candles. Get ones she likes.

If she wants to go dancing, take her dancing-even if you can't dance at all. Take her.

Listen to music together. Watch movies and TV shows. Go places. Anywhere that she likes or that you think she will genuinely enjoy.

Make her feel involved. Don't make her feel worthless-She is not worthless. She is not useless. Make her feel valued. Make her feel like she is the most valuable person in the world.

She will like things that you don't like. That is OK. Talk to her about the things that she likes. Why she likes them. How do they make her feel? Talk to her about her feelings. Her thoughts. Her emotions.

Talk to her about the future. How you are going to make it the best future you possible for you both. The past doesn't matter. The past made her the beatiful person that she is now. None of the bad things that she did in the past matter now though. Focus on your lives going forward.

Make love to her. Delicately. Passionately. Hold her hand. Cuddle her. As much as possible. Tell her you love her. Everyday. All the time.

Happy Birthday to Her.

Love > everything and anything else

I wrote this a while ago:-

https://muksblogaboutstuff.blogspot.com/2014/10/lust-love.html

But it's a beautiful thing. I think it might just be the best thing.

I am selfish. With all that is going on in this world.

The coronavirus and people being on lockdown and having to self isolate, it's probably quite lonely for a lot of people. But that isn't why I feel lonely and just so empty and pointless. I do not feel like there is a point in anything at all.

I split up with my girlfriend exactly a month ago. I have always said to people that are suffering through breakups that it will be fine and I always use a classic line and tell them that they haven't even met 99.9% people in the world yet and breakups happen for a reason and all that etc.

But the problem is that I am really old fashioned and that I believe that she is the love of my life and I do not have her with me anymore and I haven't felt this low since:-

https://muksblogaboutstuff.blogspot.com/2013/05/goodbye-dad.html

I feel like I have failed in life and that anything I want to persue or any kind of interest in anything means nothing. I miss all the beauthing things that she is. The most beautiful things were always from her or had something to do with her. Even though we also really did bring the worst out in each other-the absolute utmost worse. She bought out the worst in me and I bought out the worst in her.

But even those memories are beautiful.

I thought I tried my best. It wasn't good enough. I kept saying to everyone that even though I wasn't happy with a lot of things in my life, I slept in a kingsize bed with the most beautiful girl in the world. So it didn't matter. I'd made it.

Everyone keeps saying to just give it time. Including her-she said the same. That it will get better.

But I know it won't. In some ways, I don't want it to. Even though I can't eat. I can't sleep. I can't concentrate on anything at all.

I love her. I miss her.

Has the world 🌍 gone mad?

I want to write a post about how mad the world seems to have gone. I know that all throughout history there has been utter madness but when I stop to think about it, sometimes it feels so weird and messed up that it's almost unreal. I sometimes believe it's some kind of nightmare. You can't say or do anything that is politically correct. In fact, you can't say anything at all that isn't going to offend someone out there and these days, ANYONE can express their opinion through social media-so...ANYONE could get offended.

Talking of political correctness first-or just politics in general, or just politically incorrect-Donald Trump is the president of The USA. Some people say that he is a sexiest, racist, fumbling mess. Vladimir Putin is the leader of Russia and Kim Jong-Un is the leader of North Korea. These three are the most powerful people in the world.

These three.

If someone had woken up from a coma 20 years ago to this world, it would not surprise me if they thought they had gone to hell. Or if not hell, then a madhouse.

Think about ISIS. What is that they actually want? Just to kill people because of the way they live and their lifestyles. I think. Anyone anywhere can do something and ISIS can claim responsibility for it. I know violence and wars have always been a part of history but this is really bad.

But forget about global uncontrollable madness. Let's talk about things that are a bit less serious but really strange anyway.

I have absolutely no problem with anyone unless they personally hurt me or hurt someone I care about-I must point that out.

I've always wondered that if a man was born and he believed that he was born in the wrong body and that he should have been a she, these days they can get a sex change and correct it-but how would the man know or think he knows what it would be like being female. What if he became a she and still didn't feel right? What happens then? Surely it's something else that needs to be addressed there. I'm an Indian. Born in Britain. I cannot change that whether I wanted to or not. I can't go to the operating theatre and ask to not be Indian. I can't take a magic potion that will turn me into someone else. It's who I am. If I didn't like it, I'd still have to accept it at some point.

Accept it.

There is a movie I saw recently where if people see something, they lose their minds and kill themselves UNLESS the person is already insane, so characters have to make their way through the movie blindfolded when they are outside. So of course, the trend becomes people trying things in real life like driving blindfolded as a challenge. As well as this, there have been other trends like someone showed me a video of someone who was driving a car, they put the car in neutral or cruise control, get out of the car whilst the car is still in motion, dance whilst being filmed and then post it on Social Media! What the heck?!

Hank Azaria who is a voiceover in The Simpsons doesn't want to voice the character of Apu anymore because after two decades of doing so, someone (I can't even remember his name) accused The Simpsons and the character of Apu of being racist. These are characters. Animated characters that are taking the mickey out of stereotyping. They are making the world laugh with it and people are now all of a sudden getting offended.

The world has already gone mad. Watch out for my next blog post on predictions on what will happen next in the world that will delve it further into the madness.

Goodbye Cookie

Our beautiful Dog was put to sleep yesterday.

Some people may have the nerve to say "it's just a Dog". I feel sorry for those pathetic people.

Cookie was so lovable, pure and unlike some Humans, he would never intentionally upset you. That is the same for most Dogs. They are loyal and caring.

Cookie was the most loyal and caring Dog in the world.

It wasn't easy to see him being put to sleep. It was like a bit of everything that was good in the world was being taken away.

Unfairly.

Personally, I think the world would be a much more beautiful place with Dogs like Cookie.

It is almost shameful being a Human. I think people could learn a lot from this.

Goodbye Cookie. Thank You.

I'm sorry for shouting at you for peeing on the floor. Who am I going to moan to now about the awfulness of Humanity?

Sleep tight you beautiful Dog. X